WHY DOESN’T A WIFE BECOME A GIRLFRIEND?

My heart is beating, keeps on repeating, I am waiting for you, cause love you know, time is fleeting, time is fleeting, time is fleeting. The fleeting of time one day surprises you when your ears catch the whisper “I am expecting”. For you it may be a slip into the dreamland of fatherhood but for her it is a change in her body contour, a change in her body chemistry, a change in her feelings, a change in her thought process and a change in her existence. She is trapped under the magic of motherhood and bliss of nature. The movement of the fetus inside her womb reminds her, that day are not far away, soon she would be blessed with a bundle of joy that would give meaning to her womanhood and joy to the family. The arrival of the baby send her eyes sparkling, face smiling and skin glowing. She has traveled a long way from being a girlfriend to becoming a wife and then from being a wife to becoming a mother.

She is a multitasking personality carrying the baby in her bosom and you in the heart; at time she is more attentive to her baby and less attentive to you. Everybody expects and demands attention, but there are realities to be looked at, at the same time. When attention seems to lessen relation seems to weaken, the bonding seems to loosen and anxiety seems to be risen.Pursuing our roles and duties, distances do creep in and these distances continue for life time. So what? Is not there a distance between the earth and the moon? Is not there a distance between the earth and the sun? These distances provide a room to be playful; it is when the sun moon and earth turn playful, eclipse occur and the whole world adjust their watching devices to watch this act. These celestial bodies have been playful since they came into existence.

Watching them does it occur in our mind to be playful? Perhaps we forget, and that is why the girlfriend in a wife dies a slow death every day.

The character of Himanshu (Pareshbhai) the movie Baghban beautifully portrays this act. When he speaks out a quote to his wife Shantiben, he never happens to do it right. His wife is sure he cannot do it, she always corrects him and remarks “Is you wish to quote a quote, do not mix, say one at a time.” But this never happens.

Himanshu (Pareshbhai) confesses in front of the Raj Malhotra (Amitabh Bachan) lead character, that it is her domination that cheers me up and for that reason only he misquotes, and will continue to misquote for the rest of his life only to see her smiling.    

My wife wittingly remarks about the size of my eye and asks are you able to see things properly? I tell her “I face difficulty looking to most of the things but when I want to see you, you appear distinctly clear”

She often talks about my forgetfulness; I admitted it with an exception. Aging has taken its toll but somehow I do not forget your birthday and our marriage anniversary.

Feb 14, 2014, I called her to wish a “Happy Valentine’s Day”. But before I could wish, I could feel her in my ears sounding the bells of a “Happy Valentine’s Day”

Gravity never weakens neither does love. It’s the perception and understanding that make the highs and the lows. By the way being a boyfriend and a girlfriend starts with love.

Be lovable, be playful, she has tuned in to be your wife but then you too need to fine tune and keep that girlfriend in her, alive.