WHY DOESN’T A WIFE BECOME A GIRLFRIEND?

My heart is beating, keeps on repeating, I am waiting for you, cause love you know, time is fleeting, time is fleeting, time is fleeting. The fleeting of time one day surprises you when your ears catch the whisper “I am expecting”. For you it may be a slip into the dreamland of fatherhood but for her it is a change in her body contour, a change in her body chemistry, a change in her feelings, a change in her thought process and a change in her existence. She is trapped under the magic of motherhood and bliss of nature. The movement of the fetus inside her womb reminds her, that day are not far away, soon she would be blessed with a bundle of joy that would give meaning to her womanhood and joy to the family. The arrival of the baby send her eyes sparkling, face smiling and skin glowing. She has traveled a long way from being a girlfriend to becoming a wife and then from being a wife to becoming a mother.

She is a multitasking personality carrying the baby in her bosom and you in the heart; at time she is more attentive to her baby and less attentive to you. Everybody expects and demands attention, but there are realities to be looked at, at the same time. When attention seems to lessen relation seems to weaken, the bonding seems to loosen and anxiety seems to be risen.Pursuing our roles and duties, distances do creep in and these distances continue for life time. So what? Is not there a distance between the earth and the moon? Is not there a distance between the earth and the sun? These distances provide a room to be playful; it is when the sun moon and earth turn playful, eclipse occur and the whole world adjust their watching devices to watch this act. These celestial bodies have been playful since they came into existence.

Watching them does it occur in our mind to be playful? Perhaps we forget, and that is why the girlfriend in a wife dies a slow death every day.

The character of Himanshu (Pareshbhai) the movie Baghban beautifully portrays this act. When he speaks out a quote to his wife Shantiben, he never happens to do it right. His wife is sure he cannot do it, she always corrects him and remarks “Is you wish to quote a quote, do not mix, say one at a time.” But this never happens.

Himanshu (Pareshbhai) confesses in front of the Raj Malhotra (Amitabh Bachan) lead character, that it is her domination that cheers me up and for that reason only he misquotes, and will continue to misquote for the rest of his life only to see her smiling.    

My wife wittingly remarks about the size of my eye and asks are you able to see things properly? I tell her “I face difficulty looking to most of the things but when I want to see you, you appear distinctly clear”

She often talks about my forgetfulness; I admitted it with an exception. Aging has taken its toll but somehow I do not forget your birthday and our marriage anniversary.

Feb 14, 2014, I called her to wish a “Happy Valentine’s Day”. But before I could wish, I could feel her in my ears sounding the bells of a “Happy Valentine’s Day”

Gravity never weakens neither does love. It’s the perception and understanding that make the highs and the lows. By the way being a boyfriend and a girlfriend starts with love.

Be lovable, be playful, she has tuned in to be your wife but then you too need to fine tune and keep that girlfriend in her, alive.

A GIRLFRIEND BECOMES A WIFE …

When the breeze starts blowing and the grass starts bowing, a change is round.When the eyes start rolling and the heart starts throbbing, youth is round.When hormones start flowing, moustache starts peeping, contours start shaping, voice starts changing puberty is around. It is time for the advent of sweet teens.

Some of the process in nature occur noiselessly, evaporation and arrival of puberty; both result into accumulation, when the efforts of water vapor during evaporation reach certain height they unify and appear as clouds on the other hand when thoughts in puberty gain strength they result into ideology as such there are no fixed rules in both the process. Both process start with nothing and end up with something.

A cloud cannot remain in the sky forever, it has to pour down somewhere, it is just looking for a reason, maybe, a mountain barrier, may be a drop in temperature, may be a drop in pressure or heaviness. All it knows is to pour down but it does not know where, it is not in its control.

Ideology occurred as the outcome of puberty too cannot stay isolated, it too has to get rolling. When it sets rolling one gets attracted to the opposite sex, one starts liking the other sex but no one know why a boy starts liking a particular girl or why a girl likes talking to a particular boy. Reasons, opportunities and occasions are searched for, by both, the boy and the girl.

And wise man once said it and the youth continues to endorse it “Two is a company and three is a crowd” They enjoy the company of each other and shun the crowd and while keeping company, wishes are wished, flowers change hands, promises are made, tickets are bought, expectation raised and feeling showered.

The shower of rain drenches the earth, the fragrance of soil fills the air, the temperature, the humidity, the wetness are inevitable, they are sign of the ambiance getting inducible and overloaded; the earth cannot escape, it welcomes the monsoon and in acceptance dresses itself with greenery. Whether this beauty is the outcome of monsoon or her own wish is not a concern of my curiosity. My concern is to get lost in it.

The shower of feelings and emotions are so heavy that the time has come, the road is cleaned, the house is lit, music is just and dancing is a must. The air is filled with fragrance elevating the mood, as the sermons are read the girl appears in her bridal attire. In few moments a girlfriend will become a wife.

No doubt, she looks beautiful, the photographer will best freeze her beauty in frames but like the earth will her inner beauty be able to emerge and add to her apparent beauty, enhance the ambiance of the house she has come to, will the promises be kept, will the cheer and smile of her face be retained, will the girlfriend who accepted to become a wife be able to become a girlfriend again.

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